…college students with inflated views of themselves (who think they are better than they actually are) make poorer grades the longer they are in college. That job interview is great but UPenn professor Scott Barry Kaufman explains that after three weeks people regard narcissists as untrustworthy. And narcissists might become leaders but they’re not good ones. And when prestige isn’t on the line, most narcissists don’t work that hard. Narcissists are more likely to become leaders and narcissists who obsessively work hard are more likely to get promoted. But the stuff that works for them so well in the short term proves lethal in the long term. And in youth, being a narcissist makes you happier. They make fantastic first impressions. In job interviews and on first dates, narcissists get results. Research shows narcissists feel so good about themselves they don’t mind admitting it.Īnd narcissism can be quite beneficial in the short term. How can you tell if someone is a narcissist? It’s easy just ask them. Narcissists believe they really are that awesome - and you’re not. (The latter part doesn’t matter, narcissists don’t think about you much at all, frankly.) Let’s get to it…Īs Twenge and Campbell explain in The Narcissism Epidemic, it’s a myth that narcissism is just “high self-esteem” or that underneath it all narcissists are insecure and overcompensating.
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Let’s learn more about what narcissism is, how to deal with narcissists - and even a bit about what to do if you feel you’re becoming one yourself. Now we all have a little narcissism in us and these days we have a lot more than we need around us. (And as for selfies… well, do I really need to link to any research about narcissism and selfies? No? Thank you.) And what do most people on Twitter tweet about? Themselves, of course. The rise in narcissism is accelerating, with scores rising faster in the 2000s than in previous decades.Įven music is getting more narcissistic. In data from 37,000 college students, narcissistic personality traits rose just as fast as obesity from the 1980s to the present, with the shift especially pronounced for women. And if you think there are more of them than ever, you’re right. Research shows we are experiencing a narcissism epidemic.įrom The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement: Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller.